Paul Friend Hypnotherapy
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Tel:    (01543) 406319

Mob:  (07530) 371497

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is hypnosis?


What does hypnosis feel like?


Can anyone be hypnotised?  What if I can’t experience trance?


Will I fall asleep?


Is hypnosis safe?


Could I get stuck in a trance?


Will I be under the hypnotist’s control?  Can my mind be taken over?


Will I remember what was said to me while in trance?


What is hypnotherapy?


What is Solution Focussed Brief Therapy (SFBT)?


What is Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)?


What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)?


What happens in the hypnotherapy session?


Will I have to reveal embarrassing secrets or have to relive unhappy experiences?


Are any drugs or tablets used?


What will I feel after a session?


Do hypnosis and hypnotherapy work?


What benefits can be expected?


Who might benefit from hypnosis?


How can hypnosis help me?


What are the success rates for stopping smoking with hypnotherapy?


Why would I choose you as my therapist?


Who do you work with?


Can I bring someone else along?


Do you offer a free consultation?


How many sessions will I need?


How long are the sessions?


What guarantees do you give?


My problem is rather private and embarrassing how can I trust you?


Is it confidential?


Where are you?


Do you do home visits?


What hours and days do you work?


How much does it cost?


What are your terms & conditions?


How do I book an appointment?


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What is hypnosis?


Hypnosis is the natural state of internal focus, concentration, imagination and heightened awareness where the logical thinking mind is bypassed and the subconscious mind comes to the fore.  It is a completely natural state that can be achieved by everyone and can be likened to the feelings associated with daydreaming or being on ‘automatic pilot’ as it were.


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What does hypnosis feel like?


Hypnosis is a personal experience and is, therefore, different for everyone.  Most people report feeling extremely calm, relaxed, comfortable and at ease although this is partly due to the suggestions being given within the context of therapy.  At the end of the session though you will be given a proper ‘wake up’ and you will leave feeling energised & revitalised, with a feeling of calmness and inner peace.  You will also gain valuable insights and direction concerning the behaviour patterns that you would like to change.


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Can anyone be hypnotised?  What if I can’t experience trance?


Nearly everyone can be hypnotised.  Hypnosis is a completely natural phenomenon and we all go into the state of hypnosis on a daily basis while we are daydreaming or on ‘automatic pilot’.  Hypnosis does, however, require the subject to concentrate, actively use their imagination and co-operate with the hypnotist so it is harder to hypnotise those who are severely mentally handicapped or high on drugs or alcohol.


During the early stages of being hypnotised it is completely normal and natural to have an internal dialogue going on in your head as to whether or not you think you are hypnotised.  As the session progresses this will subside as you relax into it and you will eventually come to the realisation that you have been hypnotised.


Whilst the therapy techniques I use work better using hypnosis, they do not require it, so they will still work at some level even if you think you haven’t been hypnotised.  During the session, however, I will endeavour to prove to you that you have been!


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Will I fall asleep?


Contrary to popular belief, hypnosis does not involve being unconscious or asleep.  Instead, the mind becomes sharpened & more focused and there is a heightened sense of awareness.


In 1842, James Braid coined the terms ‘hypnosis’ and ‘hypnotism’ which are derived from the Greek word hypnosis, meaning sleep as he initially believed that sleep was involved.  He subsequently realised that hypnosis was not sleep and tried to change the name to ‘monoideaism’, but the term ‘hypnosis’ had stuck.


This hangover of terminology remains today and the fact that the word ‘sleep’ is frequently used by hypnotists causes continued confusion by giving the false impression that the subject is in a deep physical sleep.  Notwithstanding this, hypnotists continue to use the term ‘sleep’ primarily because the subject seems to know what to do (i.e. go into hypnosis) when they hear it.


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Is hypnosis safe?


Yes, hypnosis a completely normal & natural ‘state’ and is perfectly safe and there are no known records of anyone who has been physically or mentally harmed as a direct result of hypnosis.


Despite the misconceptions created by the presentation of stage hypnosis, the hypnotherapist will not put you in a zombie-like state and does not induce you to behave in any manner that is against your personal values.  You remain aware of where you are and your purposes for being there and will reach your own conclusions about what changes you will make and how you will make them.  The view of the hypnotist just ‘making suggestions’ to you in the hope they will stick is really missing the point.  Hypnosis puts you in touch with your own intuition, conscience and abilities which enables you to find options, choices and solutions that might otherwise go overlooked.


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Could I get stuck in a trance?


It is not possible to get stuck in a trance.  Hypnosis is a normal and natural state that everyone experiences whilst they are daydreaming or in ‘automatic pilot’ and because it is a natural state, so you will naturally come out of it.  At anytime during the trance you can open your eyes and return to everyday wakeful awareness, and the moment your eyes open you will be able to function normally.


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Will I be under the Hypnotist’s control?  Can my mind be taken over?


Certainly not.  When you are in hypnosis you are in a ‘state’ of enhanced concentration & awareness.  You are completely aware of everything that is happening around you and will be safely in control at all times.  You certainly won’t be unconscious.


Whilst in hypnosis, your subconscious mind is more open to suggestions, but even in this state of increased suggestibility, your mind will still reject an idea or command which conflicts with your personal values or goals.  You cannot be made to do anything against your consent.


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Will I remember what was said to me while in trance?


In most cases, yes.  You will be totally aware of everything that happens in the therapy sessions.  You will remember it in the same way that you remember a film - not necessarily every word, but enough that you know what occurred.  You can allow your mind to drift as your thoughts and images flow, but at the same time you will remain completely in control.  You can return to full, conscious wakeful alertness any time you choose to.  In fact a drifting up and down is quite natural.


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What is hypnotherapy?


Hypnotherapy combines hypnosis with other techniques such as visualisation, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to bring about the positive changes that are desired.


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What is Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)?


Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) is, like the name suggests, about being brief and about focussing on solutions rather than problems.  There are always exceptions to the rule with problems, or times when the problem is not happening, or it is less severe.  By looking at these exceptions and analysing why clients are successful at these times, we are able to bring them to the forefront, getting the client to repeat these successes and use them to create the basis for ongoing change.


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What is Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)?


Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) originated when Richard Bandler and John Grinder were listening to portions of taped therapy sessions of the late Gestalt therapist Fritz Perls.  Bandler and Grinder recognised the way people used language to influence one another, and were interested in the possibility of being able to duplicate the behaviour, and therefore effectiveness of highly influential people.  More ideas were developed when the pair were introduced to Milton Erickson.  In particular, Erickson’s use of language and the individual way he addressed each person made them realise that it was an effective way to tailor therapy.


The actual technology, or methodology, that Bandler and Grinder used is known as human modelling - the building of models of how people perform or accomplish something.  This modelling process actually means finding and describing the important elements & processes that people go through, beginning with finding and studying a human model.


NLP was originally promoted by Bandler and Grinder in the 1970’s as an effective and rapid form of therapy capable of addressing the full range of problems such as phobias, depression, habit disorder, psychosomatic illnesses, and learning disorders.  There is some debate now over how effective NLP is, but certain techniques such as the ‘fast phobia technique’ and the ‘swish pattern’ have been proven to be effective.


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What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)?


Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a form of therapy that has a strong emphasis on problem solving and practicality.  It is one of the most effective therapies for emotional, behavioural and psychological problems.  It works on the principle that unhealthy emotion and behaviour have underlying, unhelpful thought patterns or beliefs.  CBT helps a client to unravel, identify and change these unhelpful thought patterns to enjoy freedom from negative emotional states and experience greater confidence.


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What happens in the hypnotherapy session?


The session begins with a thorough assessment of your situation & current circumstances and the goals you want to achieve.  This provides a holistic picture of you and guides how the therapy should be tailored to meet your needs.


We’ll then have a discussion about how you will achieve your goals.  I’ll explain how we’ll go about the hypnotherapy, how & why it will work and what your expectations can be.


In the final part of the session we’ll carry out the hypnosis and this is where you can just sit back & relax as you apply what you’ve just learned and make the required changes at an unconscious level.


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Will I have to reveal embarrassing secrets or have to relive unhappy experiences?


You remain in control throughout the session so it’s completely up to you what you wish to discuss.  Some therapies can be done completely ‘content-free’, so that during hypnosis the client can keep their experiences totally private.


Some techniques I use do involve looking back on events that have happened in the past to give you the opportunity to learn from them.  Typically this is done by dissociating you from the event and allowing you to watch it from a safe distance.  You’re then encouraged to let go of any ‘bad’ feelings associated with it and to bring the learnings you have made from watching it back to the present to be used for your benefit.


You will normally ‘awake’ from hypnosis feeling very peaceful and content.


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Are any drugs or tablets used?


No.


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What will I feel after a session?


Most people feel a sense of deep calm and relaxation after hypnosis.


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Do hypnosis and hypnotherapy work?


There is considerable evidence based research accumulated over many years that demonstrates the effectiveness of hypnosis.  You can find more information on this throughout this website.


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What benefits can be expected?


Because of the enormous variation in the problems clients present with, it is not easy to say exactly how much improvement may be made or how quickly and in what period of time.  Experience shows, however, that clients improve at the speed they earnestly desire and believe they can.


Notwithstanding the above, with brief, solution-focused hypnotherapy, treatment generally takes between one and three sessions.  Smoking cessation, for example, takes just a single session.  Where a longer treatment is required, sessions rarely number more than three to eight.  This is usually in cases where someone seeks ongoing personal development or has multiple issues they wish to deal with.  It is always made clear in the first session how long the treatment is expected to take.


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Who might benefit from hypnotherapy?


Anyone who is motivated to address an area of their life that they would like to change or learn more about can benefit.  It’s easy.  All you have to do is just sit back and relax as I facilitate the experience.


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How can hypnosis help me?


With hypnosis there are few limits to what you can achieve.  You have the power to make changes in your life - changes that take place quickly and changes that last.


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What are the success rates for stopping smoking with hypnotherapy?


The majority of clients need just one session to stop smoking.  In 1992 New Scientist reported that, after just one session of hypnotherapy, a smoker stands ten times as much chance of quitting than if they used willpower alone.  Over 72,000 individual cases were included in this study, and of all the methods studied, hypnotherapy was found to be the most effective by far.


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Why would I choose you as my therapist?


I am a trained, experienced professional therapist and am affiliated to a professional body, which has a strict code of conduct & ethics to which I adhere.  Please see the Ethics page for more information.


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Who do you work with?


I work with both adults and children (children must be accompanied by a parent or official guardian).


Appointments can be for an individual, couples or groups.


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Can I bring someone else along?


You are welcome to bring someone along for the initial part of the consultation, however once treatment commences, it is preferred that sessions are exclusively confidential to the client*.  If you really want someone you know close by, they are welcome to sit in an adjacent room while the treatment takes place.


                       * with the exception of minors who must be accompanied at all times by a parent or guardian.


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Do you offer a free consultation?


Generally no, although I’m always happy to answer any questions you may have.  Please feel free to E-mail or telephone me if you have any queries or to book an appointment.


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How many sessions will I need?


The number of sessions required really depends on the individual and how quickly they want to change, but as a general guide, most problems take between one and three sessions for positive changes to be made.  Smoking cessation usually takes just a single session.


Where a longer treatment is required, sessions rarely number more than three to eight.  This is usually in cases where someone seeks ongoing personal development or has multiple issues they wish to deal with.  I will always make it clear in the first session how long the treatment is expected to take and the likely costs.


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How long are the sessions?


A session usually lasts between an hour to and hour and a half depending on the treatment.  For smoking cessation, a typical session lasts an hour and a half.


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What guarantees do you give?


It’s not possible to offer guarantees, as every individual is different with different abilities.


Although we expect you to get the result you desire, and know that you have the ability to do so, everything depends on your desire to achieve your goals and your ability to accept the changes.


If you ask a question of your unconscious mind you will get an answer, but that answer is not always the answer you want to hear.  If you learn to trust your unconscious and go with whatever answer the unconscious mind gives you, you will find it will be the right thing to do.


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My problem is rather private and embarrassing how can I trust you?


As an experienced therapist, I recognise that it can be difficult for clients to talk about their problems and I will do my utmost to minimise any discomfort.  Everything you tell me will be in the strictest confidence.


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Is it confidential?


Yes 100%.


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Where are you?


I am based in Lichfield, Staffordshire and primarily practise in and around that area.  In certain circumstances I may also able to travel further a field to meet clients.  Please contact me for further details.


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Do you do home visits?


I can do home visits but it is important that the room where the session takes place is free from interruption.


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What hours and days do you work?


I work Monday to Saturday and have appointments available both during the day and in the evenings to suit all.  In certain circumstances I may be able to work outside these hours.


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How much does it cost?


Please see the ‘costs’ page for further information.  Click HERE to go there now (opens in a new window).


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What are your terms & conditions?


Payment can be made by cash or cheque at the end of each session.  Unfortunately I am not able to accept credit / debit cards at this moment in time.


Please give as much notice as possible if you need to change or cancel your appointment.


Owing to being a small concern, it is necessary to charge the full amount for appointments that are missed without prior notification.


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How do I book an appointment?


To get in touch you can telephone me on:


Tel:  (01543) 406319     or     Mobile:  (07530) 371497


If I’m unable to answer your call immediately, please feel free to leave a message and I will get back to you as quickly as possible.


Alternatively, simply use our online contact form.  Click HERE to go there now.


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